Roxane Gay is Spelled With One "N": Dating FAQ -
If this guy can have a dating FAQ, so can I.
1. Why are you still single?
I discontinued settling in 2012.
2. Are you a feminist?
3. If you’re a feminist, why do you need a man?
I don’t need to do anything but stay black and die but I enjoy braiding a man’s leg hair while we…
"6. Stop being a photo baby. Put up a photo. If you’re a woman and scared of stalkers — get over yourself. There has not been even one case of a stalker on LinkedIn. If there is, report it as a TOS violation. But don’t hold your breath waiting for one.”
A dude writing a post about “LinkedIn etiquette” tells women who are worried about stalkers to “get over themselves” and says there has never been a case of LinkedIn stalking.
Really? Sure about that?
h/t to @AlysonWeiss on Twitter.
(via Twitter / NanticokeNDN: #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen …)
"It goes like this, I run into a man I know or meet at a dinner party for the first time in a long time. After hello, they open with, “So, are you still writing?” Hmmm…..this immediately suggests to me that they have not read the NY Times (bestseller list) in many years, the Wall Street Journal, or maybe they don’t read at all. Yes, I am STILL writing. What this does is that it immediately puts my writing into the category as a hobby. As in, are you still taking piano lessons, doing macrame, have a parrot? I don’t have a huge ego about my work, but let’s face it, for me it is a job. A job I love, and I have been doing it since I was 19 years old. I have been in the Guinness book of world records repeatedly for having a book on the bestseller list for more weeks consecutively than whoever. Yes, for Heaven’s sake, I am still writing. It’s my work, my job, how my family eats and went to college.
People said that comment to me when I was 35. Now when they say it, I get even more insulted because I think they’re suggesting I must be too old to write, but it’s actually not about that. (And I’m not that old yet). The comment is an immediate put down. It is a way of suggesting that what I do is really not very important. Women NEVER ask me that question. But SOME men do. The men who do, I find, are VERY uncomfortable about my success at what I do, and VERY annoyed by it. The other really ridiculous comment is “You have an AGENT?” Of course I have an agent, I have written 130 books that are sold in 69 countries in 43 languages—they think maybe I write letters by hand and send them to publishers around the world to sell my books? Of course I have an agent (a fabulous one I love).
I never say to guys, “So are you still a lawyer?…A doctor?…A brain surgeon?” They would think I’m nuts if I did. But men who are annoyed by women’s success in business have to find a way to put them down. And what better way to insult someone than minimize what they do, imply that it’s really insignificant, and inquire if they’re still doing it?”
That’s one of the things you learn. Unfortunately, if you’re a woman, there are some things that people don’t want to see. There’s a sense of protecting the female character that I hadn’t really anticipated. Some of that is bullshit, and we need to stretch what we expect our female characters to do. But you want the lead character who’s a doctor, who’s going to find romance, to be someone you respect and who does noble acts. We all come from comedy cred, and we have that side of us where we think, “Oh, we should just do edgy stuff.” But at its heart it’s not that kind of show. So the character has evolved a little bit. — Mindy Kaling on why she’s changing her character in season 2 of The Mindy Project to make her more likeable. Which sort of kills me.
Publishing a collection of bright girly things that will go well with your magenta smartphone, under the heading "Feminine Mystique," seems like something that’s "Not Smart in 2013." Motorola’s advertising squad is apparently unconvinced that women are buying iPhones in large numbers without factoring in what hair ties will go well with them. — Motorola: Girls Will Love Our New Smartphone!
Feminism was established so as to allow unattractive women easier access to the mainstream of society. —
PoliticsNation with Al Sharpton: Rush Limbaugh’s 25 most outrageous moments in 25 years on the radio — MSNBC
That’s exactly why I’m a feminist, Rush!
Jamelle Bouie: What does it mean to be 'privileged'? -
Given the recent conversations over race and discrimination, I thought that this—from earlier this year—was worth republishing.
Earlier this week, I sold my old TV to a friend. But late last night was the only time I had to take it to her house. Since the TV is light, and she lives in the…